Harmless Flirtation

So the big East Coast Blizzard is over, kind of anti climatic for me because

1. We didn't get as much snow as predicted
2. It happened on a Saturday night which mean it would not result in a day off on Monday....Whomp Whomp :-(

Anywho I was leaving the house this morning to go to work and make the most of may last three days before Christmas break and I got a call on my cell phone from a colleague. We work in the same type of business and have had to deal with each other (ONLY on a professional level) for the past 2 years. (*Note: I realize that I am vague about what I do for a living but I got to keep some things private, but in the interest for some disclosure I work in Education and that is all I will say). The thing is we have been doing this coy harmless flirting dance for the past 2 years. Now neither one of us have actual verbalized any intentions but you can tell there is "something" in there. So he called me to thank me for a Christmas card I sent him and to wish me a Happy Holidays (and the I hear a collective Mmmm huhhhh right). So we usually chat for a bit and talk shop in our very best phone voices. I am in a relationship so I don't lend to much thought into our impromptu conversations, but I have to wonder is there really such thing as "harmless" flirting? Ohhhh yeah did I forget to mentions that he is about 6"1, chocolate brown, college educated, and has a Barry White baritone....huh forgot to mention that (funny how that happens). Anyways if I don't muster up the time or energy to blog again this week
Happy Holidays and Hugs & Kisses

I Know I Know

OK so I'm wack, I get it....i promise to post and don't, I've got more excuses then Tiger Woods in a room full of blonde's I know I know. But I digress life as usual has me in a vice grip and leaves little time for leisure (plus I a procrastinator so that doesn't help!). The holidays are upon us and that means food, fun and family...... For the most part I enjoy being around my family but over Thanksgiving we had some issue with my Grandmother that has me ready to hibernate out until New Year's. My grandmother has decided that she wants to project her Daddy issues onto my father, brother, and cousin and its pissing me off. So I am trying everything in my power not to turn Christmas into a Jerry Springer episode. So lets see how this all turns out. Anyways onto my latest all consuming focus MY HAIR!!!! So I am in month 5 of my transition and I have had some days when I was not dealing well with two texture and left the house looking WRONG. My curl pattern is much curlier in the back then in the front and my hair takes forever to dry. I am also playing mad scientist with styles and products. Well my new product addiction is a post for another time.

XOXOXOX
N.

Transitions

So essentially it seems everything in my life right now is conspiring against me to make me change.........

Ok, let me stop that sounded really over dramatic, but there is some truth it in. I guess when I started transitioning my hair it ushered in the desire to make transitional changes in other parts of my life. Currently my career is at a standstill, my job which i am great at has now become a joyless repetitive paycheck. I no longer get the same fulfillment that I got out of it as little as a year ago. Its time for me to Act 3 of this little play of life and I not sure in what direction to go.....sigh
It has come to point where i have to metaphorically fly or die and I am not longer satisfied with wither under these stage lights. OK that my internal struggle rant for the day {For your daily dose of ME follow me on Twitter: Nikki_Stiletto}

Peace and Blessing People

Nikki S.

Maxwell & Aunt Flo!!!

You know my love for Maxwell runs deep, he is talented and sexy, and if you have been to any of his concerts he is clearly lets his freak flag fly. So I had to post the following:
I came across this on www.bossip.com a couple of weeks back, it was a quote from Maxwell during one of his concerts its about sex with a woman on her period......yeah I am not commenting on this one click the link and talk amoung yourself lol -> http://bossip.com/163656/maxwell-i-dont-care-if-youre-riding-the-crimson-wave-just-put-some-towels-down/

Being MIA and NYC Freeze

We are experiencing early WINTER WEATHER in NYC and I am NOT a fan. The city that never sleeps should not be covered in frost in October!

Ok I've been busy..... hell I just been to tired and preoccupied to blog......don't judge me! Between my home life, a impromptu to trip to the south, and a few 12 hour work day my mind was elsewhere, hell even my feet are are not into it, I haven rocked a pair of 3 inch heels in a minute. But I am sure you'll are not interested in my whining so I will stop here.....but I will preference that with I had things to do, I had 99 problems and a blog ain't one lol. I promise to be better in the future and keep you up with the randomness that is my life (especially if it is juicy, potentially scandalous, or end with me getting some shoes). Anywhoo XOXOX and all that good stuff

for a really good read check out one of favorite bloggers Michael Arceneaux:
http://www.thecynicalones.com/ (for your daily dose of sarcasm follow him on Twitter)


Song of the Day: Musiq (from the Luvanmusiq Album) Greatest Love

My Kayne Rant......

I know everyone and their mother's have weighted in on the jackassary that is Kanye West drunken award show fiasco last night, but I have to add my 2 cent (of course). What he did was the equivalent of taking taking candy from a baby or showing up drunk or to thanksgiving dinner. What he did was destructive and selfish as hell, it wasn't about Beyonce's video, it was about him and his narcissistic belief that EVERYONE needs to hear his opinion. I wonder did he go outside and kick a puppy afterwards for good measure? You have to be a special kind of asshole to take away a moment from a talented 17 year old singer (goggle her if you don't know who she is) who has probably been dreaming of this for most of her life. Kayne we appreciate you reminding us what a complete jerk you can be and why narcissism is a mental illness. I appreciate Beyonce for being gracious and allowing Taylor the spotlight that she rightly deserved.

New York State of Mind

Its a dreary day in NYC, the weather is gray it 65 degrees and it is the day after the 8th Anniversary of 9/11. I can't believe it been 8 years, it all seems so vivid like it happened yesterday. Its still so sad to think of it and still heartbreaking to hear the victims names being read every year during the memorial. People always post 9/11 Never Forget, I don't think that is possible....... Going to see the new Tyler Perry movie tonight with the girls, hopefully it not a heavy handed preachy as his movies usually are. This week was really busy for me, the start of Fall always is, I am beyond exhausted. Not much else is going on, but trust me the next couple of weeks are gearing up to be crazy, thanks to my job, the cycle begins again.

XOXOXOX
The Stiletto One!

Never Miss The Water

OK I've been preoccupied again, not updating, blogging, twitter. I been crazy busy with work and I'm just been in a funk lately. The ghost of relationship past decide to come and haunt my house two weeks ago. Lets call him "Dexter", he is a extremely handsome WORKAHOLIC with Carmel brown skin, and a velvety island accent. We had and on and off relationship of convenience for both of us for about 2 1/2 years. Then he just disappear for the last two years. So he pops up at my job two weeks ago and offers to take me too lunch.....Now who am I to turn down a free meal (and an explanation of his Houdini act). Long story short we got a little something to eat and sat down and talked he told me about the two full time jobs he was working (again workaholic) and how his disappearance had nothing to do with me, to which I responded I know because I'm fabulous. He danced around the subject of us and if I was seeing anyone and then dropped me off back at my office with a hug and a promise to stay in touch. Now before you think I am playing with fire, I told the boyfriend about him and his reappearance and he trust me so I am not gonna screw that up (full disclosure in vital in a relationship). Anywho it goes back to the old adage you never miss the water until the well runs dry. Lets see if Dexter shows up with a well bucket again next time.

XOXOXOX
Nikki

Give It Up For The KING

TODAY
TOMORROW
FOREVER
MJ

Ex's and Explanations

It is another day of bipolar New York weather....it went from raining and mild last week to a heat wave this week. I guess I picked the right time to go natural because this is sweat out your relaxer weather. I am happy to be at work just because we have central air! I do wish I was at the beach thought right now, I gotten relatively no sun all summer. So on to today's randomness, I ran into a guy I dated for like two weeks in high school yesterday, and he introduced me his boss as his ex!!!! It was two weeks dude and you are really referring to me as your ex...really....I have shoes that I have had a longer intimate relationship with! Anywho the question of the day is how long do you have to be with someone to consider them an Ex?

Ponder