Happy New Year!!!

Happy New Year

12 days after the fact but Happy New Year all the same. The last half of 2010 was a whirlwind I changed jobs, hair textures, and attitudes all in the span of 5 months. I left my job in education after 9 years to go into the non profit sector. I also let go of a lot resentment and anger toward people and situations that were not allowing me to grow. I also FINALLY BC'ed on a random day after getting fed up with the to textures. So my new attitude, job, and short curly hair are ready to take over the world. I Obama'd out the end of my year with a whole bunch of change you could believe in! I've also decided that I am going to pass on the the ides of setting New Year's resolutions, if i need to change an element of my life I just going to make the change and follow through(Simple right, let see how this works out) ! I am looking forward to traveling more this year and hopefully looking fly in my two piece bathing suit doing it! More blogs to come let see how 2011 unfolds.

XOXOXO
Nikki

You never miss the water till the well run BONE dry

Sooooo,

For the past 2 weeks since I've given my resignation notice to my job I have seen an interesting phenomenon happening: Appreciation! All the words that I needed to hear, all the accolades that I've deserved, and all the accommodations that I wanted have been given to me. Its funny how me leaving have prompted my supervisors to treat me the way I should have been treated in the first place. Now that I am leaving they can really appreciate the contribution that I brought to the staff (hell the the whole organization). I've worked hard on my career for the last 9 years I worked my way up from a receptionist and busted my hump to complete my education while doing my job. All I wanted was to be acknowledgement for my hard work and the promotion that I deserved. I knew my worth, too bad they didn't realize it until it was too late, or maybe they did and just didn't want to let me rise above they people they wanted in those positions. I admit I didn't play politics, I didn't kiss up to the all boys club and make nice with the powers that be. I was too busy working my ass off to do the best job possible and make sure that we met our goals (often even to the detriment of my personal life ). I won't look back and think what I should have done because I did my best and I am moving on to a better job, and it is their loss trust me. Well you know how the saying goes you never miss the water until the well runs dry. I hope they survive the drought

XOXOOX
Nikki

Franklin Has Left the Building!!!!

So after months of unhappiness, stress, and disappointment.......... I got a new JOB.

I am going from higher education to working with a non profit on the secondary school level. I'm excited, I start in my new position on August 30th but it is a bitter sweet transition. I've worked for my old job for the past 9 years so it is a significant chunk of my 20's. I wish the best to the next "Franklin" that takes my place (if they decide to even hire another "one") but for right now FRANKLIN HAS LEFT THE BUILDING!

XOXOXOX
Nikki New Job!

I know I know I know.....Where have YOU BEEN

I know I've been more then MIA lately, I've gone missing like Neffe's period..... In my defense life has thrown me a few curve balls and I've been preoccupied. (plus damn it I was tired I work hard I get lazy!) My professional life has been kicking my butt, and I've had to work through some issue. On my job in my department I am Charlie Brown's friend Franklin (you know the ONLY black character). So you can image how fun it is being the national ambassador for all thing "black" (which is funny because I work with other minorities), also I am one of 2 woman and lets say the "all boys club" is alive and well. So I've been in a funk to say the least for the last 2 month about my career situation, which has done nothing but aid my procrastination. I had to pull myself together put on my big girl panties and deal with it, so here I am blogging as therapy, but my job woes are another story for another time. So here we are a day before the year anniversary of MJ's passing and the day before my Maxwell / Jill Scott concert I think tomorrow will be the definition of bitter sweet. I start a three week vacation on July 1st so there is a silver lining to every cloud, so you will be hearing from me during my down down time....since the man will be off my back!

XOXOXOXOX
Nikki S.

One Year...

Today is one year to the day that I got my last perm.......

I remember because I had to get my hair done for my god daughter 1st birthday the next day and it was late in the day when I went. I had to go to a local dominican salon, the charged me too much, then didn't do a good job, and it took till 10pm at night.

Trails, Triblations, and a Paycheck

Hello People,

Its been a while but much like poltergeist I'm Backkkkkkk!

I've been MIA while I deal with some issues I've been having on the job front. Things have been really traumatic for me, I've been treated in such a way that made me want to leave and never (EVER EVER) look back, of course I have bills to pay so currently this is not an realistic option. My work situation has given me many sleepless nights and a couple of panic attacks to boot! People have told me "Oh in this economy just be lucky you have a job", I am grateful for a job but that is not a justification to take the onslot of insensitivity and blatant nepotism that I've have had to endure. I am in a better place in my spirit right now because I know God will not give me more then I can handle, but it has been TRYING to say the least. Anywho moving on and upward from the trials and tribulations for a paycheck........My hair is in now in month number 10 of my transition, I have been sticking with 2-strand twist and twist outs as my staple style but as summer approaches I am looking for something new........any thoughts

XOXOXO
N. Stiletto

Educational Decisions...

I always intending on furthering my educational pursuits even after my LONGGGGG journey to complete my Bachelors. So after some indecision on a a school (and major for that matter) and after attending a very informative Open House and i think I've finally make a concrete decision. I've decided to pursue my MPA (Master of Public Administration) with a specialization in Non Profit organizations. I am in the middle of the applications process right now so I am praying I get into the program. I'll keep you guys posted!

XOXOXOX
N.

Hair Struggles

Hello People,

2010 is off an running and so far so good, 11 days in and I am cautiously optimistic. So my issue for the day, my hair is pissing me off. Ok not all my hair but I am transitioning and the 2 texture are driving me nuts. It is so hard to get one the way you want it an then have your permed edges decide they want to do whatever the heck they want. OK simple problem right just BC (big chop)....WRONG! I can't let go of the length and I am not ashamed to admit it. It took me all of High School and 2 years of college to grow my hair out past my shoulder and I LOVE it that length. Since I've decided to go natural I am having a hard time disconnecting my emotions from my hair length. I love my natural growth but I never had short hair and to be honest I think I am scared of the prospect of it. My permed hair is like a bad relationship I know I should stop dealing with but I keep letting back into my life. So the transition struggle continues.

I Know I Know

OK so I'm wack, I get it....i promise to post and don't, I've got more excuses then Tiger Woods in a room full of blonde's I know I know. But I digress life as usual has me in a vice grip and leaves little time for leisure (plus I a procrastinator so that doesn't help!). The holidays are upon us and that means food, fun and family...... For the most part I enjoy being around my family but over Thanksgiving we had some issue with my Grandmother that has me ready to hibernate out until New Year's. My grandmother has decided that she wants to project her Daddy issues onto my father, brother, and cousin and its pissing me off. So I am trying everything in my power not to turn Christmas into a Jerry Springer episode. So lets see how this all turns out. Anyways onto my latest all consuming focus MY HAIR!!!! So I am in month 5 of my transition and I have had some days when I was not dealing well with two texture and left the house looking WRONG. My curl pattern is much curlier in the back then in the front and my hair takes forever to dry. I am also playing mad scientist with styles and products. Well my new product addiction is a post for another time.

XOXOXOX
N.

Being MIA and NYC Freeze

We are experiencing early WINTER WEATHER in NYC and I am NOT a fan. The city that never sleeps should not be covered in frost in October!

Ok I've been busy..... hell I just been to tired and preoccupied to blog......don't judge me! Between my home life, a impromptu to trip to the south, and a few 12 hour work day my mind was elsewhere, hell even my feet are are not into it, I haven rocked a pair of 3 inch heels in a minute. But I am sure you'll are not interested in my whining so I will stop here.....but I will preference that with I had things to do, I had 99 problems and a blog ain't one lol. I promise to be better in the future and keep you up with the randomness that is my life (especially if it is juicy, potentially scandalous, or end with me getting some shoes). Anywhoo XOXOX and all that good stuff

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Song of the Day: Musiq (from the Luvanmusiq Album) Greatest Love

Sorry....Been Busy

Hello People,
Sorry I been busy tying up some loose ends and basically just enjoying some time off. So basically here is what you've missed while I've been on cyberspace vacation

1. I've decided to get off the "creamy crack" and stop using relaxers in my hair, I'm going natural


2. My uncle passed away from cancer


3. I introduced my boyfriend to the other side of the family and it went well


4. I found a new late night spot for me and the girls too sneak off too that has great cocktails


5. The ghost of ex-boyfriend past has made a reappearance thank to Facebook...Facebook is the devil


6. I got to see karma in action with some people who wronged me in the past but I took no satisfaction from it (maybe a little)


7. One of my friends gave birth to a daughter and it is a potential Maury situation....but that is for another blog post and another time!

Until next time my loves Peace, Love, and Shoes!!