My Kayne Rant......

I know everyone and their mother's have weighted in on the jackassary that is Kanye West drunken award show fiasco last night, but I have to add my 2 cent (of course). What he did was the equivalent of taking taking candy from a baby or showing up drunk or to thanksgiving dinner. What he did was destructive and selfish as hell, it wasn't about Beyonce's video, it was about him and his narcissistic belief that EVERYONE needs to hear his opinion. I wonder did he go outside and kick a puppy afterwards for good measure? You have to be a special kind of asshole to take away a moment from a talented 17 year old singer (goggle her if you don't know who she is) who has probably been dreaming of this for most of her life. Kayne we appreciate you reminding us what a complete jerk you can be and why narcissism is a mental illness. I appreciate Beyonce for being gracious and allowing Taylor the spotlight that she rightly deserved.

New York State of Mind

Its a dreary day in NYC, the weather is gray it 65 degrees and it is the day after the 8th Anniversary of 9/11. I can't believe it been 8 years, it all seems so vivid like it happened yesterday. Its still so sad to think of it and still heartbreaking to hear the victims names being read every year during the memorial. People always post 9/11 Never Forget, I don't think that is possible....... Going to see the new Tyler Perry movie tonight with the girls, hopefully it not a heavy handed preachy as his movies usually are. This week was really busy for me, the start of Fall always is, I am beyond exhausted. Not much else is going on, but trust me the next couple of weeks are gearing up to be crazy, thanks to my job, the cycle begins again.

XOXOXOX
The Stiletto One!

Never Miss The Water

OK I've been preoccupied again, not updating, blogging, twitter. I been crazy busy with work and I'm just been in a funk lately. The ghost of relationship past decide to come and haunt my house two weeks ago. Lets call him "Dexter", he is a extremely handsome WORKAHOLIC with Carmel brown skin, and a velvety island accent. We had and on and off relationship of convenience for both of us for about 2 1/2 years. Then he just disappear for the last two years. So he pops up at my job two weeks ago and offers to take me too lunch.....Now who am I to turn down a free meal (and an explanation of his Houdini act). Long story short we got a little something to eat and sat down and talked he told me about the two full time jobs he was working (again workaholic) and how his disappearance had nothing to do with me, to which I responded I know because I'm fabulous. He danced around the subject of us and if I was seeing anyone and then dropped me off back at my office with a hug and a promise to stay in touch. Now before you think I am playing with fire, I told the boyfriend about him and his reappearance and he trust me so I am not gonna screw that up (full disclosure in vital in a relationship). Anywho it goes back to the old adage you never miss the water until the well runs dry. Lets see if Dexter shows up with a well bucket again next time.

XOXOXOX
Nikki

Give It Up For The KING

TODAY
TOMORROW
FOREVER
MJ

Ex's and Explanations

It is another day of bipolar New York weather....it went from raining and mild last week to a heat wave this week. I guess I picked the right time to go natural because this is sweat out your relaxer weather. I am happy to be at work just because we have central air! I do wish I was at the beach thought right now, I gotten relatively no sun all summer. So on to today's randomness, I ran into a guy I dated for like two weeks in high school yesterday, and he introduced me his boss as his ex!!!! It was two weeks dude and you are really referring to me as your ex...really....I have shoes that I have had a longer intimate relationship with! Anywho the question of the day is how long do you have to be with someone to consider them an Ex?

Ponder

Sorry....Been Busy

Hello People,
Sorry I been busy tying up some loose ends and basically just enjoying some time off. So basically here is what you've missed while I've been on cyberspace vacation

1. I've decided to get off the "creamy crack" and stop using relaxers in my hair, I'm going natural


2. My uncle passed away from cancer


3. I introduced my boyfriend to the other side of the family and it went well


4. I found a new late night spot for me and the girls too sneak off too that has great cocktails


5. The ghost of ex-boyfriend past has made a reappearance thank to Facebook...Facebook is the devil


6. I got to see karma in action with some people who wronged me in the past but I took no satisfaction from it (maybe a little)


7. One of my friends gave birth to a daughter and it is a potential Maury situation....but that is for another blog post and another time!

Until next time my loves Peace, Love, and Shoes!!

Love With Your Head and Not Just Your Heart

The concept of love has been romanticized, sprayed with perfume and wrapped up in a pretty bow for a long time. The “idea” of love is always more attractive then the reality of love and that what has tainted people’s expectations of relationship should be. The butterflies in the stomach are nice and the euphoria of new love is amazing but there come a point when you have to make the hard decision of “Is love enough?” Case in point my I was IN LOVE with my ex-boyfriend, I mean crazy all consuming, irrational, head over heels in love. At he beginning it was wonderful, he courted me, he treated me like a princess and as much as I resisted I feel hard. The problem was as much as I loved him the stars and the glitter faded and the reality of who he was became clear and it did not match up with what what i wanted for my live in the present and the future. I mean it OK for opposite to attract but we were becoming like night and day. He was a smoker and I was a non-smoker, I was churchgoing and he had dubious feeling about God and religion. I valued family and maintained close bond with them and he barely spoke to his. I had to decide if love was enough to make up for the differences and if in the long run would it be enough to sustain the lone haul.

As you can obviously tell by me referring to him as my EX-boyfriend, I decided love was not enough. I had to be realistic with myself, with what I wanted for that moment and for the future. I wouldn't be happy in the long run just living on love and not thinking about marriage, kids, money, faith, careers, and ambitions. My heart said I love him but my head said is this going to be a real functional long-term relationship?, and sadly the answer was No! Cut to almost 2 year later I am in a new relationship, in LOVE, happy and with someone that make sense to both my heart and my head, and I have no regrets about the decision I made.

Cheaper to Keep Her

So as much as I have other important thing going on in my life and not much time for the proverbial BS and the gossip (well I do have a little time, gossip blogs are addictive). I had and interesting conversation this weekend with one of my male friends about the whole Nas and Kelis situation (not familiar Google it). His position was that it is crazy that Nas has to pay her (Kelis) so much money and just because she had his baby she still does not need that much money. Not surprisingly most of my male friends expressed similar sentiments. My opinion is it has nothing to do with male or female you shouldn't’t need a judge to make you want to take care of your family. Britney Spears had pay a monumental amount to her ex in child support and alimony monthly because of the kids and to keep him in a life that he was a custom to while they were married explain to me why Nas shouldn't do the same? It based on your income not just some man hating judge out to get men and make them pay. Russell Simmons pays his ex $40,000 a month in child support and did it without a judge’s order he said because he want to take care of his children.....so tell me why it so WRONG the amount that Nas has to pay Kelis (his wife) and for his child. If they could have handled it behind the scenes there would have been no need for a court order forcing him to pay, and why should you be forced to PAY for your own child, step up and do the right thing! And as far as the alimony she wasn't working the whole time they were married, he knew that and he knew who he was marrying. When was the last time you heard a Kelis album REALLY like 2004. He had no problem with it before when things were good now he doesn't want to pay, I don't feel sorry for him at all…....ever heard the saying it’s cheaper to keep her, guess Nasir just found that out!

Just Because....

Will Demps is so damn fine I hade to post this pic.....Enjoy
Thanks to Panache Report for this delicious pic.

Just Because Its Friday....

If this doesn't make your day better then give up and try again tomorrow, and when you have no one else to blame...... blame it in "the boogie"!